It isn’t always easy to talk to the people you love about breast cancer
But your family and friends can offer meaningful, ongoing support.
At first, some people who’ve been diagnosed with breast cancer may want to deal
with the disease on their own. They may worry about others’ reactions, or the right
way to tell younger children. A family’s previous experiences with cancer may also
color the conversation.
There is no standard time or way to tell the people you care for about a cancer
diagnosis. Still, it’s important to start a dialogue and keep it open for several
reasons. Certain family members may play a role in managing treatment, dealing with
insurance companies, and talking to employers and others outside a person with cancer’s
immediate circle.
With children, it’s especially good to set the tone.
Let them know how you are doing, what you need, and how they can help. Children
often take their cues from adults. This is especially important given
that children often overhear or guess at information they’ve not been told directly.
If you let your younger family members know how you’re feeling, they may offer you
comfort and support—and they may have an easier time dealing with your diagnosis
and treatment. Whatever happens, make sure your younger loved ones know how much
you love them, regardless of cancer.
The people you love can make your life easier.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help from time to time. Often, your family and friends
will be more than happy to lend a hand.
On a practical level, talking with a few trusted members of your family or friends
can help them stay in the loop about your treatment plans—what medications you’re
taking, and when you’re taking them.
Let your loved ones know how to get in touch with your healthcare team, in case of an emergency. They can also help pick up your medication or other items. And they can help you overall to manage your treatment.
When you feel up to it, try talking to your loved ones about how you’re feeling,
and how your treatment is affecting you. Talking about what’s going on may help
you feel better about it—and it may help your family, as well.
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